October 2008
“Stirring up the Pot”
Breakups are hard, an ex relationship, a friendship or sometimes even with a family member. Whether it’s an end to a short relationship or a long marriage, bitter feelings can surface, confusion can arise.
My past relationship was pure hell, she was an obnoxious, obscene, abusive bully and she made mine and my daughters life absolutely miserable.
I had “tried” ending the relationship within the first six months, I moved out but she attempted suicide by overdosing on Tylenol and pain pills and I found her and of course I felt guilty so I went back against my better judgment.
Two years later I permanently ended it and went on with my life. I got an apartment, met a wonderful woman and started healing.
March 24 will be two years that we have been together and I can say without a doubt that she is indeed the love of my life. We had a private commitment ceremony and she now legally carries my last name. I plan on spending the rest of my life with her.
My ex finally did get re-involved into another relationship which was a huge relief to me because I “thought” that if she had someone in her life that she would finally leave us alone…not the case.
She will become the same person with her new girlfriend as she was with me, it is just a matter of time. She knows no other way to be. She will behave herself for a period of time because right now she is a truck driver and has a dog so she needs a puppy sitter for him because she is unable to take him with her and then when she feels the need to “take the reigns” she will and her new girlfriend will be just as miserable as I was
Obviously her new girlfriend is not completely blissful in her relationship with my ex because I will from time to time receive an ignorant and belligerent instant message on my AOL account from her girlfriend, today being one of those times. I am certain that it is indeed from her girlfriend because my ex was not, how shall I say, “the brightest crayon in the box.”
I have had my friends suggest that I change my e mail address and my phone number but I refuse to be bullied by either one of them another day so my next step will be to contact the police and file Internet harassment charges. I have saved ALL of the messages that I have received, I have covered my tracks and will follow through, that goes without question.
If you have problems with an ex girlfriend Or ex boyfriend stalking then you first need to call the police. You need to document and write down everything that the stalker is doing. Make sure to write down the times and dates. Put an end to all contact. Tell the stalker to please stop contacting you and stop following you. If the stalker doesn’t stop then tell the person that you are going to contact the police.
Make sure to save all evidence of the person stalking you. Please make sure to save voice mail messages or e-mail messages. Save any evidence. Make sure to keep a copy of all incoming and outgoing phone
call records. You need to save the evidence in order to get a restraining order against the individual.
Now, most people will stop stalking you if you threaten to go the police. Some of them don’t realize what they are doing is considered stalking. If you get a restraining order then the person can get arrested or in trouble if they ever contact you again. A restraining order makes it so that they can’t show up your house and the person can’t show up to the place that you are employed at.
If you get a restraining order against a stalker then make sure to leave a copy of the restraining order papers in your car. Make sure to leave a copy of the restraining order papers at your place of employment with your employer. Also make sure that your neighbors know about it so they make sure you are safe. If it makes you feel more safe then you might want to get a roommate or move to another place so that the stalker doesn’t know where your new house is.
Tell your friends and family members that you have a restraining order on the stalker. Make sure that your employer has a picture of the stalker if possible. When an individual just won’t leave you alone then you need to get a restraining order to get the point across that they aren’t allowed to you anymore. It is a privilege in the states to talk to someone, but it isn’t a right. A restraining order takes away that person rights to talk to you since they had to be immature and abuse the privilege.
No one has the right to harass you and create havoc in your life so stand up for yourself. Believe it or not, the law is on your side!
I hope that you all have a wonderfully prosperous week!
~Cee~
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